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[st_martin_a]

I've been regular on Live Journal for 7 years but have got out of the habit of posting and reading recently.
It's partly due to getting out of the habit. One thing I've noticed about myself is that as soon as I get out of the habit of something, it stops completely.
I also discovered that my wife has been reading my posts, and while it's not a problem in some respects, it kind of alters the dynamics of lj. What I like about lj is you can write what you want without someone from the 'real world' being involved in any way. It's like a personal journal that only a few chosen people have access to.
On Dreamwidth I don't have as many regular friends but my wife doesn't know it exists and so it's a place where I can journal without thinking about she might be thinking at the back of my mind. It kind of feels weird knowing that you're keeping a journal that someone else from your life is reading.
Does that make sense?
Anyway, I'll see how it goes on here. : )
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Comments

[rafqa]

Well, glad to see you back here-- and that someone messaged you. I was about to do it myself, but these days someone always beats me to it :) DW is a quiet little haven, a good place to be under the radar.

Although you might want to buy a rename token.

[st_martin_a]

Thanks Rebecca.

[october_rain]

Yeah, I agree with renaming this journal, since you've got the same username here as you do there, so if she really wanted to look or found out about this place, (which is easy to do, since many lj'ers use this place as a backup, so someone will mention it in a comment or post eventually there), it wouldn't be hard. Not sure if your posts are public here or friends only? That matters too.

Your journaling space should feel safe for you to let out your thoughts without having to worry about people in your real life (loved ones included) peeking inside. It's no different an 'invasion of privacy' as picking up a paper journal of yours and reading it (unless you gave her express permission to). Hope you figure it out soon, Andy. I miss you around here/lj.
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[st_martin_a]

Thanks Erica. I've missed you too.
I had to check your profile first because you've changed your name since I last read a post from you on here.
Glad to see you still read dw.
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[eviltracey]

I agree with your friend above who suggests renaming your journal.

(I had my own issue with someone from RL reading mine - although I will admit it was my own fault. Ever read Louise Fitzhugh’s YA novel “Harriet The Spy?”)

[st_martin_a]

Sounds interesting. : )
What's it about?

[eviltracey]

Harriet the Spy is about an 11 y/o girl who wants to be a writer and, to this end, keeps a notebook with her observations about the world about her at large. Her classmates get a hold of her book and start reading what she’s written about them, which gets her into trouble with them, her teachers, and her parents.

(Harriet’s observations about her classmates are - at the beginning - from the perspective of a privileged and clueless little girl - for example, she comments about how fussy one of her friends is, without realizing that he shoulders a lot of responsibility for a young boy. She develops more empathy once she gets into trouble over her notebook.)

One exercise I liked from the book was when Harriet sat in a booth at a local cafe and listened in to the conversation of the people in the booth behind her and tried to guess what they looked like.

[st_martin_a]

Lol. I love the idea of hearing a conversation and guessing what the people look like.